The one problem I always had making things with my Lego was that whenever I built something really big and grand it would use up all my bricks. I'd keep admiring it proudly for some days and then I'd tear it down, so that I could build something new. I'd tell myself that one day I'd create my masterpiece, after which I'd never have to build anything ever again. That day never came.
I think it's the same with people and lives. Some of us constantly need to be building something new. Otherwise we get bored. Others are quite content with what they have, never feeling the need to do anything different. People in the first category often end up hurting the ones they love, but that doesn't necessarily make them bad people. That's just how they are.
But people in the second category, those who love that sense of permanence, do not understand how those in the first can be so destructive. To them it seems crazy that someone would want to destroy everything that took so long to build. It does not make sense.
Like it does not make sense when a husband decides to go off with another woman, or when a wife decides to have an affair. Who is wrong and who is right and who decides where the boundary between the two lies. Something I have spent much time thinking over. Was she wrong to leave me for someone else? Or did I decide it was wrong.
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Johnny Van Zant and Lynyrd Skynyrd. For our Michelle on her birthday tomorrow. And for all y'all folks out there who like her have been too long away from home.
I think it's the same with people and lives. Some of us constantly need to be building something new. Otherwise we get bored. Others are quite content with what they have, never feeling the need to do anything different. People in the first category often end up hurting the ones they love, but that doesn't necessarily make them bad people. That's just how they are.
But people in the second category, those who love that sense of permanence, do not understand how those in the first can be so destructive. To them it seems crazy that someone would want to destroy everything that took so long to build. It does not make sense.
Like it does not make sense when a husband decides to go off with another woman, or when a wife decides to have an affair. Who is wrong and who is right and who decides where the boundary between the two lies. Something I have spent much time thinking over. Was she wrong to leave me for someone else? Or did I decide it was wrong.
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Johnny Van Zant and Lynyrd Skynyrd. For our Michelle on her birthday tomorrow. And for all y'all folks out there who like her have been too long away from home.
5 comments:
Its alright with Lego coz lego doesnt have feelings..Also it would be hell lot easier if two people of the same category came together..
Oh and btw, i guess she wasnt wrong ..she wasnt just lucky enough ;)
Creating something is inherent in our nature and it can take any outlet - good or bad. As far as infidelity and breakups go, if we trusted the person to fall in love with you, I think we should also trust their intelligence to leave us for someone else. Obviously there must have been a lacuna, right? Everyone has their own version of right and wrong, so best to move on. No denying the pain but part of the game.
Sorry bad english but I couldnt backspace..
Hm. I don't agree with you, I think mostly people who destruct the existent things and build newer ones hurt themselves a lot in life. Because these are the ones who hate permanence and feeling trapped with something can really drive you crazy.
Infidelity is such a different ballgame...you can never predict who exactly will indulge in it.
I hated Legos! Too much work when I could dress up my dolls...haha
on one hand, you want something new, you crave new stuff, you'd get bored if you just completed one thing, and spent the rest of your your life staring at it.
and on the other hand, you'd hate to destroy it. because you might never be able to built something like this ever again. the same goes for relationships.
so you hide. you pretend. you seek excitement on the sly, because you don't want to leave this either.
fidelity and infidelity. who's to decide. who set the rules. i have no answers. and i suspect neither does anyone else.
take care, hugs and all that sort of stuff.
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