The Lunchbox is no cinematic masterpiece, but it does get you thinking. About having nothing vs. seemingly having it all. And about support systems. And what it means to have one. And about what happens when that support system disappears one day, or simply comes crashing down. Like when Ila smells another woman's perfume on her husband's shirt as she does the laundry one afternoon. The husband she is so completely devoted to.

And yet you have to make yourself vulnerable sometimes. You have to take that chance. But that will leave you exposed. Which is why a defence mechanism or a survival tactic is just as important as a support system.

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I don't believe there is anybody who has life all figured out. They may have it all worked out, which is not the same and can lead to confusion sometimes. And disappointment. And frustration. And worry. When things don't quite work out.

Too many ands.   

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We all have our past. And things we are not proud of. But is it worth even thinking about it? It there any point analysing what went wrong and wondering if there was indeed something you could have done to make it right? Because life doesn't allow us any edits. Start a new chapter and move on. Whoever has to read will read.

For R. Nothing is lost till you stop looking.

If you must knock
on my door, Love,
make sure you have
the right house first.

You can go
out of your mind.
Just don't be seen leaving.

I think the first step towards coming to terms with your life and finding that peace that is all so necessary in these wretchedly crazy times we live in, is realizing it's not about you. Odd as it may sound to some people, nothing is about you. And you are nothing.