The beheading of the American journalist was terrible. But there are a lot of terrible things happening around the world. Whether people are killed by bombs, bullets or have their heads cut off, the result is the same: more killing, more war, more despair. Be it for money, power or religion. Like the Game of Thrones, in the end nobody wins.

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The search for meaning can often be meaningless. And so I don't entirely disagree with people who choose to ignore the bigger picture completely and focus instead on making every day as much of a fun and happy experience as possible. Because if you think about it the big picture can sometimes be very small. And one lifetime may indeed be too short a time to find meaning anyway. As for the lucky ones that do I wonder if finding it is even worth all the years spent looking.  

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Goa beckons. Haven't been there in the rains since '09. These days there is no off season. The show must go on, even if it is a damp squib.

Peace, love and water sandals.

Isn't it amazing how thick-skinned/shameless Bollywood film-makers are? Singham the first was so unimaginative/run-of-the-mill you could have scribbled the story down the back of your movie ticket stub, and now Singham returns with more of the same bludy nonsense! They should have at least spelt it Siinghham or something to arouse people's curiosity.

You know there are people who actually collect movie ticket stubs. They should get into Bollywood too. Or a lunatic asylum. Pretty much the same thing.

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Bikini Beach in Goa where people are going to be charged an entry fee. Never going to work. Simply because the largest population of bikini wearers in Goa is currently Russian who are so tight-fisted they'd put the Mangaloreans to shame! And a valid question that's been raised is what will the men on said beach be charged? Those who are not wearing bikinis that is.

Our country gets more and more bizarre every day! Which can be fun at times.

I didn't watch Great Leader's speech from the Red Fort, but I imagine it was all gas. For someone with so much talk, we'd have expected the walk - not the walk, the run - to have started by now. But our man still seems to be looking for his shoes. Something he better find soon or somebody's going to fling a pair at him.

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Time for my Sunday morning swim. Got me a new pair of figure hugging Speedos that I totally love ... glide through the water like a seal. If only there were some wimmen in bikinis around it would be so much more fun. Most of the wimmen wear some funny looking dress like thing which does a good job of hiding what they should be revealing. But in our country you can't blame them, for it doesn't take long for the seals to turn into sharks.

BFN.

The only thing I didn't like about my very first massage (my first ever, can you believe it?) was having to wear that stupid disposable underwear they give you. Being one of those one-size-fits-all things and considering I'm not the largest size that can fit into them, it had me looking like a baby in diapers. I'd rather have worn nothing. And the guy Bipin was a lot stronger than he looked. Had me in a fair bit of pain he did, but at the end of 60 minutes it felt bludy great. I still don't know why he started off by kneading my bum cheeks for a good ten minutes, but considering it is the single largest muscle in the body I reckoned he knew what he was doing. Good stuff this Swedish massage, thinking I'll get one every month. Oh and Bipin did compliment me on how strong my back and shoulders were, so he's my man.

Many people said it's too expensive (1,700 bucks for a Swedish massage at the Four Fountains) but the way I see it, it's a lot more value for money than pigging out in some restaurant just to shit it all away the next day.

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We've become a generation that loves to eat, shop and holiday. Most conversations tend to center around one of the three. Which is why I find myself quite alienated from most of my colleagues and friends -- because I can't bludy eat all the time, don't have the patience to shop even if it's online, and can't afford to go on holiday to all those fancy damn places where you get ripped off clean or otherwise have to spend two months researching the best deals in order not to. It's tiring, it's a pain.

So I prefer being home. And just doing my thing. I love my one hour in the gym every morning and my swim on Sundays, my Scotch before dinner (no more desi daaru), the weekend motorcycle rides, hanging out with the boys (or the occasional girl), the quiet life. But this evening I got a call from a friend who is in the music business asking if I'd like to get back into that. I was hesitant at first but then I thought what the hell, if nothing else at least I have an excuse to start playing/practicing again.

Peace, love, and a rub the right way!

Guy at work had this to say about the 'gender diversity' so many companies are promoting like there's no tomorrow: Women who work full time will either have fertility issues or give birth to unhealthy babies who will grow up to be sick children and weak adults. They, like their parents before them, will also either be infertile or have kids who are even more unhealthy than they were, finally resulting in the end of the human race. And so women should stay at home and have healthy babies and perfect their culinary skills so that said babies grow up well fed, rough and tough and the human race can flourish for another ten thousand years.

There's just one problem I told him: What about the men?

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Gender diversity or no gender diversity, one thing is for sure - our lifestyle is killing us. Killing us softly with no bludy song! And all that talk about work-life balance is humbug. You must work till you have no life left is what it is.

And with that I call it a night. Or a day. Whatever, it hardly makes a difference.

Over the years I have become this sponge that has absorbed so much of other people's life experiences that I have created very few of my own. Which is not to say it has been a completely futile exercise, but a sponge sometime or the other must release what it has absorbed. That is its purpose.   

But the experiences I create must be my own. The though of replicating what I have seen in others is depressing and quite pointless. I cannot be one of those people who fit themselves into a mould: nice house, car, husband/wife, kids, job, life. The perks of the rat race. The perks that are such a great and blinding attraction, people forget how much they have to give up to earn them.         

Which is why I find myself such a misfit. Which is why I need to get out. And go somewhere else.

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What is it like to have nothing? What is it like to be no one? In a time when everybody wants to be somebody and have it all, this is the question I ask. You never really know until you hit rock bottom. And there I think comes the greatest learning of who you really are. Which is something the rest of us couldn't be bothered with because we have quite happily let others decide that for us. 

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And so begins a new journey of sorts. Where it will lead me I do not know. But what I do know is that I have very little time. I tried so hard and so long to get on the bus that I didn't see it was the wrong one in the first place.   

Peace, love and late realizations.   

For my brother J

this life is but a dream
until death wakes you up